YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON TO YOU ON THIS PLANET. You should always be the most important person in your life. If you don't take care of YOURSELF FIRST, then you have no business being in a relationship/marriage or trying to take care of other people, whether those other people are your kids, parents or even your pets.
I've experienced it first-hand. As a people pleaser, taking care of everyone else but me, I was an exhausted burnt-out shell of a human. I put my best foot forward in my professional career and as a caretaker for my terminally ill parents, but I had NOTHING left for the rest of my life. LITERALLY NOTHING.
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It sucks to care so much about what others will think that you hesitate to do what you need to do for yourself.
What's worse, is that you don't allow yourself to even think or consider what you want to do because you know you'll never have the courage to do it.
You're too busy taking care of everyone else.
I mean really, who are you anyway?
Do you even know?
I sure didn't.
Why do your needs matter?
Until they did.
And that's when the Brilliant Transformation began.
Read my "Coming Out" story of depression--The first article I ever published with elephant journal.
I spent more than seven years in bed. After my parents died, I went to work, came home went to bed, woke up and did it again. I was not providing value outside of my office. My son would be the first one to attest that we have some not so pretty stories about his high school years.